There’s a difference between true black sheep and those who choose to remove themselves from the family and identify themselves as such. I’m going to call it how I see it and explain how I know to recognize it.
Please note I am speaking from my own point of view as I have done lots of healing work and assisted my fellow Black Sheep in navigating life.

The black sheep of the family brings uncomfortable topics to the forefront without hiding behind children, spouses, or victimization. We don’t throw jabs without backing up our argument or throw indirect energy to see who we offend.

We tell our story from a responsible side and do not blame anyone for our misfortunes or trauma bonds. We take full accountability for everything in our life and KNOW WE ARE THE SHAMANS, THE HEALERS, THE REBELS, THE WEIRDOS, AND THE KOOKS IN THE FAMILY THAT CAME TO CHANGE THE FAMILY DYNAMIC AND HEAL GENERATIONAL CURSES!

We know our role and are not afraid to bring up topics that make others uncomfortable. We are also not afraid to show up to family functions bc our abuser may be present.
We call forth our role, and our lack of boundaries and confront many situations with dignity and what was taken from us by sharing and breaking the silence so that others may no longer be a victim to the abuser. Only then do curses of shame, guilt, and fear lift.

When we begin speaking of the shame, guilt, and disbelief of the harm one or several of our own family members have caused and played their role. When we begin to stop covering the sins of our fathers, mothers, and ancestors before us. WE ARE THE BLACK SHEEP!

We don’t out them publicly to shame them but rather have the guidelines of this plane and justice system make them accountable as we are not Marshall’s, WE ARE THE BLACK SHEEP!

We are not here to impose rules but rather to break them or see how far we can stretch out of the bounds of the limitations placed on us. We are those who go against the grain.
Those who do not go with the herd when the masses say take a pill and do this and believe that. We often stand-alone and/or are often shunned by our own blood due to the discomfort our energy brings by our mere presence.

We are the black sheep that question EVERYTHING that does not sit right in our soul. We are the black sheep that forgive not because we condone what our aggressors did to us, but because we are done ingesting poison, hoping it will someday kill our aggressor. We are the black sheep that have decided to take a different route. We question EVERYTHING WE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT. Even the very scripture we have been indoctrinated to place so much of our faith in. Many of us no longer share the beliefs of our upbringing. We no longer follow a religion or societal norms.

As the black sheep, we come with a special ability. The ability to sense when there is a wolf amongst us. We are the ones who get looked at oddly because we just don’t like someone when everyone else does. Most black sheep have been abused and have an internal mechanism that shows up once and reminds us of a feeling we’ve had previously, yet know the present moment is different and an opportunity to grow and learn. We have what’s called intuition. As black sheep, we have learned to listen to that voice as if our life depends on it. We know wolves aren’t far.

Everyone may associate with being that black sheep, but it isn’t often they come in multiples within a bloodline. We can teach others to resemble individuality in hopes of helping break curses.

Over time, we run into other SHAMANS (Black Sheep) who can accompany us through the currents of vibrational disturbances, making this life more tolerable. Where we can feel heard and validated even though we don’t truly need it.

We do not conform with society’s rules and are often misunderstood. We do not follow and conform to beliefs that do not sit right in our gut.

We are often creative and move differently from the rest of our family. We often break free or choose to be autonomous marching at the beat of our own drum. We do not remove ourselves without proper conversations and will continue to ask uncomfortable questions. We will continue to push those around us who have questionable energy.

Do not confuse removing ourselves because we feel misunderstood. We are often not invited to family functions yet are asked about and spoken of when our absence is noticed. YES, WE ARE NOTICED!

We have struggled with authority ALL OF OUR LIFE and have often been met with resistance. We have a beautiful unconventional way of thinking that many will never comprehend unless they choose to come forward with an open heart and mind.

We have faced struggles with grace and choose not to continue cycles of hurt, guilt, and shame because we have learned our role is important. We are warriors, not stopping because we are afraid of what others will think. Don’t you forget that when people speak of you in your absence, you have caused a ripple in their energy and an acknowledgment of truly being in this role!

For those Black sheep yet to begin your healing work, please reach out if you don’t know where to begin🙏 my world needs you, and your world needs you more than ever! You have come here with a journey and your own purpose that isn’t gifted to just anyone. So allow yourself to have life show you how it’s working with you and not against you. It’s time to show up in full force!

For those of you who think you’re black sheep but really are wolves in sheep’s clothes, pay attention to the attitude you have when your presence is requested. Stop with your assumptions and create a possibility to release the bitterness from your hearts and the frustrations from your life by showing up as you are without the need to hide behind shiny objects, your title, your spouse, and or children.

Stop using the excuse of “maintaining the peace” because in reality, you are prolonging the pain and avoiding confronting your fears of rejection, being wrong, and having the world notice you’re hurting deep down. Until conversations are had, there is no peace in anyone’s heart. Until you can truly let go and allow that pain to surface, the real black sheep of the family will ALWAYS continue to trigger you.

May this message give you the courage to keep moving forward and keep letting go! May God listen to our prayers and continue allowing us the strength we need to keep healing ourselves, our families and our relationships.

With love ❤️ one of many black sheep out here in the world,
Aryana